Anger Management Kansas City Kansas – Armstrong Family Counseling
If you have found yourself overreacting to situations in your life with anger, anger management may be right for you. There is no shame in reaching out for assistance with handling your anger. Armstrong Family Counseling in Overland Park, Kansas City has a wonderful staff of trained experts who can assist you with managing your anger.
What Are The 3 Types Of Anger?
While you may not be aware of this, there are three types of anger that affect each and every one of us.
The first type of anger is passive anger. This is the type of anger where you avoid confrontation and tell yourself “everything is fine” when in fact it is not. You may fall silent, leave passive-aggressive notes, procrastinate, or even sulk when experiencing passive anger.
The second type is open aggression. When you experience open aggression, you quickly lash out and become physically or verbally aggressive to those around you or even to yourself. You may even display signs of both physical and verbal anger during open aggression.
The third and final type is assertive anger. Unlike the first two types of anger that are reactive, assertive anger is more controlled. Before you make comments or complete actions, you think through the next few moments. This type of anger can save you from harming yourself or others, and it can also prevent you from saying or doing things that may ruin relationships that are precious to you.
Root Causes and Triggers Of Anger Issues
Each individual is unique and will have their own set of causes and triggers that bring on anger issues. However, many of us have common themes that can bring on anger.
Family System Traits: Learning behaviors and skills that are passed down from one generation to another, or the skills and behaviors one learns to survive and thrive within the family.
Lack of Coping Skills: Simply not knowing a better way to pro-socially release the stressors and triggers that send someone into anger.
Lack of Support Network: Not having the social support/family to have a support outlet for stressors and triggers. Even further, having friends and family that encourage anger outbursts and behavior that goes against the grain of anger management goals.
Stressors: Stressors (such as financial hardship, marital problems) are a constant in our lives. When you do not know how to effectively manage stressors and feelings associated with stressors, you can turn to anger/anger outburst behavior.
Family issues are a well-known cause of anger issues. Family can push your buttons more than anyone else in the world. Whether your family members intentionally or unintentionally push you to a point of anger, it can be difficult to not react to what your family members are doing or saying.
Financial hardship is also a common problem that can quickly insight anger. When you are struggling financially, you fall into a place of constant stress. Since you are always worried and anxious about your finances, comments and actions from others can cause you to react with anger.
Addiction to alcohol and other drugs makes it incredibly easy to become angry even over the simplest statement or action. Addiction is similar to anger in that it is used to escape and avoid the root issues and emotions you need to process to feel congruent with yourselves.
Those who suffer from addiction may find that is the root cause of their anger issues. Addiction to alcohol and other drugs makes it incredibly easy to become angry even over the simplest statement or action.
Top Ways To Handle Anger
Use Coping skills to process your anger and release it such as:
- Think first, speak second.
- Go for a workout.
- Write down your feelings.
- Watch funny videos.
Increase personal insight to determine where the root cause of your anger is, process it, and let it go.
Challenge ineffective thoughts and beliefs that could fuel narratives and triggers that cause anger in you.
Increase self-care. Sometimes people can get lost in the shuffle in daily life and forget to take care of themselves. Increasing self-care, engaging in activities that give purpose and meaning, can make stressors and triggers for anger seem less intense.
Anger Management Therapy Can Help
Anger management can help you identify the root causes of your anger and create actionable steps to controlling your anger at the moment. Your anger management therapist will go over patterns and themes in your anger outbursts to help create a unique plan for you. Remember, there is reason to feel shame in seeking anger management therapy.
The key difference between mental illness and symptom management is the level of impairment. If left unchecked, anger can ruin your life, ruin relationships, impair work, and even get you terminated from work. Anger that is not managed can also lead to legal involvement and committing actions that you cannot take back. Learning and using anger management techniques can put you on a path to living a stable life. Effective anger management opens the door to having stable, pro-social relationships, attending social events with no fear of having aggression or outburst behavior. Anger management can allow you to let go of what troubles you and learn how to relax.
You are not broken and you do not need to be fixed; you simply need help identifying how to control your anger at the moment.
Our Team Of Therapists Is Certified In Anger Management
We only utilize therapists who are certified in anger management for these services. Each therapist will go over your unique triggers and help develop a plan that works for you.
Court Ordered Anger Management
Having a court order to do anger management and navigating through something outside of your control can be frustrating. Doing court-ordered anger management through our services is about balancing needs. Your needs for therapy and what you want into account while reading, adhering to, and meeting all requirements from the court order. Your caseworker/judge will also be kept in contact to inform them of your progress or to make a report if you are not compliant with therapy. When/if you are able to meet the requirements for the court-ordered anger management, a memorandum to the effect of you meeting the requirements for the court order and giving approval as a clinician that you can effectively manage your anger.
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